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Maybe you haven't heard, but one of the things that makes men men is that we are by nature risk-takers. Take a look at who's getting killed doing crazy things. It's mainly males. Train-surfing, extreme sports, and driving dangerously, it's almost an entirely male field.
Read The Darwin Awards by Wendy Northcutt. It's embarrassing. The whole book is founded on the theory of natural selection (not evolution!) which shows how dumb people are weeding themselves out of the human gene pool by getting themselves killed through their own stupidity. In this way, their genes are not being passed on. Most of the candidates for the awards are male. Like I said, embarrassing.
But men like to take risks and we like a challenge. A friend of mine, an octogenarian, recently told me about an intersection near his home. He said, "My wife doesn't like coming out of here. She likes to go up a bit further where it's easier to get out." Then he explained that he only recently realised why he comes out of that particular intersection. "I like the challenge of getting across those three lanes."
Typical male. It's just the way we're wired.
So how about you? Are you up for a challenge? If you are, I've got a big one for you. We're facing a problem in the contemporary church that it seems a lot of people are not aware of. In fact, the problem is worldwide.
It's the problem of the gender gap.
What do I mean by that? I mean that, despite the general population being roughly 50-50 male and female, the church is not. If your church is, it's a rare church. Most churches have a 20% gender gap. That means that 60% of the church is female, and only 40% is male.
There could be all sorts of reasons for this. It could be that we men just aren't doing our jobs. Maybe we're leaving it up to the women to invite people to church instead of getting involved in the challenge of evangelism.
But whatever the reason, it means that 20% of our church population are women without Christian husbands. There are three options here. Option No. 1 is that there are women in our churches with unsaved or backslidden husbands we have failed to reach for Christ. Our challenge here is for us to figure out ways to bring them in.
The other two options relate to the single females in our churches. Many of them have to make a choice that most people wouldn't like to have to make. They either obey God and live a life of singleness, or they marry a non-Christian.
Not a great choice, is it? Is it a choice you'd like to make? Stay single or be disobedient?
As I said, it's a worldwide problem. When I was recently in India, I ministered in several churches. Every one had the same gender gap.
Unfortunately, the problem is self-perpetuating. The chances of a family attending a church if a child is converted is only 3.5%. If the mother is converted that figure rises to 17%. But if the father is converted, the chances of the whole family winding up in church are 93%.
My challenge to you is, as a man, what are you going to do about it? You might like to check out the Recommended Reading section on this website for some ideas. What you do could make all the difference.